Let it be said that I love to be surrounded by people. I personally thrive and think I’m happiest when I’m with people I love. However, I feel like I kind of started to give up my interests for the sake of others. I’d agree to go to a bar, knowing that I’d hate it but going for the sake of the group. Now, I know this is normal some of the time, but I found myself making sacrifices left and right every single time I went out with people. But as time passed, I didn’t even know what I actually liked. I’m also in a wonderful relationship, but I found that I never spent any of my free time alone except for an hour or two when I got home from work. And so I began to dread time alone because I was faced with the impossible question: what do I actually like?
I had to go on a business trip to New York (my life is super hard, I know) last minute. At the end of each day, I was asked to join people in the hotel bar, or the bar around the corner. I thought about it and realized that I hadn’t been in New York in over four years and wanted to see some things in the city, some secret spots and some tourist attractions too. So I said no, and went off alone in the city. I did this for three days in a row and it honestly was the best decision I have made in a while. I had dinner alone, strolled the streets for cute little finds, enjoyed drinks by the water and even went to see Carrie Bradshaw's apartment (super touristy, I know). I finished my trip with a stop at the Brooklyn Bridge. I've been to New York several times but somehow never got the chance to go see it, and I am SO glad I did.
Obviously this isn't like a heal-all situation, but I realized and rediscovered some things that I forgot about myself. The moral of my story is that, as great as it is to share things with people, it is even more important to be confident in your relationship with yourself. Take yourself to your favorite French restaurant. Go to the movies alone. Go on a day trip to that antique shop you've been dying to go to. Chances are, you'll love yourself even more.
I've attached some pictures from my New York trip below- along with some dinner recommendations. Let me know what you think!
So obsessed with all the buildings in New York.
DINNER Recommendations from a non-new yorker
Olio E Piu
This quaint little Italian eatery offers more than just some of the best burrata I've ever had. Come for the food, stay for the atmosphere.
This one is not for everyone, but so worth the stop. This russian spot offers truly authentic cuisine, and it doesn't hurt that the interior is cute too.
Nestled in the financial district, this spot is small but mighty with amazing pasta and a rustic interior.
Go here for one thing and one thing only- drinks at sunset. I grabbed a cosmo and overlooked the channel with a decent view of the city, and was overtaken with how much I really want to move here. Kinda packed, but definitely worth the stop.